You see, in life right now, I can imagine that you are busy. The demands on your time and your energy in your day to day activities is all consuming. If there’s a lot of great stuff happening in your world, then you’re feeling great and moving forward in a positive way. But on the flip side, if you are frustrated, feeling like you are behind, or if you are depressed, then your day to day can feel overwhelming. You may even feel a little anxious. This narrative starts to dictate the way that you see the world overall. There is a connection there.
This brings me to the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction—which is a law, like the Law of Gravity—states that whatever we focus on, we attract, and draw towards us. So if you are focused on the negative, if you are focused on a recurring idea like I can never get on top of things, or I’m constantly late, that feeling, that reality, shows up over and over again.
Have you ever met someone who says something like, “I just have the best luck with parking.” It doesn’t matter where or how crowded it is, they always find the best parking spot, magically! It goes back to this idea: whatever you focus on, you attract. This is the principle behind vision boards; this is the principle behind positive affirmations. When you train your mind to stay positive, you start to see positive people, activities, coincidences in front of you. And this is a choice. This can, in fact, be an absolute game changer in your life.
So I want to invite you to just practice this idea. Become aware of those negative thoughts that you have in your mind. What is the single biggest, negative habitual thought that you have?
For me, it’s the notion of not having enough time. Between my businesses, motherhood, my husband, my friends, there are a million things, seemingly, going on at any given time! And I used to have this narrative of I do not have enough time to accomplish everything. And because I felt that way, when I tried to complete one of the many tasks I had on my plate, I had a low grade anxiety that I wouldn’t be able to finish it, which in turn really zapped my energy and focus.
When I became aware of that limiting thought, I made a choice to change it. I said to myself, “I’ve got all the time in the world.” Now even if I didn’t believe that at the moment, I still said it. Because that statement calmed me down. My energy changed, my breath changed, my focus changed. I had a sense of more hope and optimism, and all of that made me much more efficient with my time. This is something that I am so aware of now, and it has truly changed my life.
When you understand the idea that your thoughts create your story, you can take a moment to pause that narrative and change it. So I invite you to think of that one limiting idea that has been draining you. Write that negative statement down and then find the opposite, positive statement. And even if you don’t believe it right now, make that your new way of being. Make that what you focus on instead. And see how that changes the way that you feel. You change your feelings, and you will change your actions. You will change what you attract. That’s right: you can actually change your story, which will in turn change your life.